NEW
FRIENDS
ON THE FRIENDSHIP
CAFÉ
Friendship
Advice about Making
New Friends
Following is a
recent list of people's Top-15 goals tagged on
43Things.com:
- Be happy — 14,610 people
- Get a tattoo — 13,404
people
- Go on a road trip with no
predetermined destination — 12,573 people
- Get married — 11,928
people
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Travel the world — 11,559 people
- Save
money — 9,217 people
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Make new
friends — 8,381
people
- Buy
a House — 8,091 people
- Get
out of debt — 6,798 people
- Get a job — 6,409
people
- Wake up when my alarm
clock goes off — 5,931 people
- Start
my own business — 5,566 people
- Quit Smoking — 5,554
people
- Decide what the hell I
would like to do with the rest of my life — 4,953
people
- Spend less time fooling
around on the net and more time actually working —
4,527 people
Note that
the Number 7 goal on the above list is to "make new
friends."
You have to do
the right things rather than the instinctive things when
attempting to make new friends.
Here are a few
tips for making new friends:
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Should you care what
your others think about your friends? Yes, if you
are still living with your parents and still a kid.
But if you're too old to go to the playground,
don't place too much value on the opinions of
others, particularly relatives.
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Trust not what inspires other members of society to
choose a friend. Trust what inspires you. You are
the only one who can decide who will bring
happiness or misery into your life.
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Don't be fooled by first impressions.
Ironically, nice people are often not good people.
Just as ironically, good people are often not nice
people. Some people may have some rough edges, and
even be jerks, but they are generous and
trustworthy — these are good people.
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A BORING YOU begets BORING FRIENDS. An INTERESTING
YOU begets INTERESTING FRIENDS. And, of course,
vice versa.
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Chance and risk are the hallmarks of winning at the
friendship game.
Here are a few
friendship quotes for choosing new friends:
Promises may get
friends, but it is performance that must nurse and keep
them.
— Owen Feltham
A man should choose a friend who is better than
himself.
— Chinese proverb
The making of friends who are real friends, is the
best token we have of a man's success in life.
— Edward Everett Hale
It is better to be hated for what you are than loved
for what you are not.
— Andre Gide
Be slow in choosing a
friend, but slower in changing him.
— Author Unknown
Don't make friends who are comfortable to be with.
Make friends who will force you to lever yourself
up.
— Thomas J. Watson, Sr.
Give what you have. To someone, it may be better
than you dare to think.
— Henry Longfellow
Make new friends but cherish the old
ones.
— H. Jackson Brown, Jr.
A true friend is one who likes you despite your
achievements.
— Unknown Wise Person
More Friendship
Tips for Meeting New Friends on The Friendship
Café:
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In the friendship game, try going with the flow of
life a little more.
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Let things happen naturally instead of always
trying to make things happen.
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Perhaps you have noticed that it's always easier to
ride a horse in the direction it's going.
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When a friend gives you a gift, treasure it,
regardless of how much or little it cost your
friend.Place it somewhere important so that you see
the gift often. This will constantly remind you of
the value of your friendship with this person.
Moreover, just think how much more satisfaction
your friend will experience from having given you
the gift when she sees it prominently displayed in
your living room ten years after she gave it to
you.
For more information and opinions
on friendship and money see:
1.
Advice: How Do I Make New Friends?
Hara Estroff Marano gives advice on making lasting new
friendships....
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