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 CHOOSING BEST FRIENDS

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Friendship Quotes, Quips, and Sayings

about Choosing Best Friends

When choosing best friends, keep in mind that it takes a long time to grow a great friend. Trust and respect are the two most important elements for friendships to thrive.

If either are missing, it's not friendship. It is companionship at best. At worst, it's an unhealthy relationship waiting to go from bad to worse.

Don't be fooled by first impressions.  Ironically, nice people are often not good people. Just as ironically, good people are often not nice people. Some people may have some rough edges, and even be jerks, but they are generous and trustworthy — these are good people and can make good friends.

Here are some quotes and sayings that express the rules and principles related choosing your best friends:

It isn't kind to cultivate a friendship just so one will have an audience.
— Lawana Blackwell

A man should choose a friend who is better than himself.
— Chinese Proverb

Never judge someone by who he's in love with; judge him by his friends. People fall in love with the most appalling people. Take a cool, appraising glance at his pals.
— Cynthia Heimel

Every man is like the company he is wont to keep.
— Euripides

When you choose your friends, don't be short-changed by choosing personality over character.
— W. Somerset Maugham

When the character of a man is not clear to you, look at his friends.
— Japanese Proverb

A true friend is the greatest of all blessings, and that which we take the least care to acquire.
— La Rochefoucauld (1665)

He that walketh with wise men shall be wise.
— Solomon

If you always live with those who are lame, you will yourself learn to limp.
— Latin Proverb

Life is partly what we make it, and partly what it is made by thefriends whom we choose.
— Tehyi Hsieh

The only people who are worth being friends with are the people who like you as you are.
— Charlotte Levy

A wise man may look ridiculous in the company of fools.
— Thomas Fuller

Satin's friendship reaches to the prison door.
— Turkish Proverb

Associate yourself with men of good quality if you esteem your own reputation, for 'tis better to be alone than in bad company.
— George Washington

It contributes greatly towards a man's moral and intellectual health, to be brought into habits of companionship with individuals unlike himself, who care little for his pursuits, and whose sphere and abilities he must go out of himself to appreciate.
— Nathaniel Hawthorne

Keep only cheerful, positive friends. You can pick your friends, and I like to choose those who are positive and people who challenge me. They make me feel good. They don't drag me down or make me angry at the world. Negative people see the difficulty in every opportunity, while positive people see the opportunity in every difficulty.
— Harvey Mackay

Wishing to be friends is quick work, but friendship is a slow ripening fruit.
— Aristotle

Men only become friends by community of pleasures.
— Samuel Johnson

It is better to weep with wise men than to laugh with fools.
— Spanish Proverb

Friendship demands a religious treatment. We talk of choosing our friends, but friends are self-elected. Reverence is a great part of it.
— Ralph Waldo Emerson

Untried friends are like uncracked eggs — you can't be sure what they are lie on the inside.
— Unknown Wise Person

Friendship needs a certain parallelism of life, a community of thought, a rivalry of aim.
— Henry Adams

Our friends should be companions who inspire us, who help us rise to our best.
— Joseph B. Wirthlin

I would prefer as a friend a good man who is ignorant than one moreclever who is evil, too.
— Euripides

A wise man associating with the vicious becomes an idiot; a dog traveling with good men becomes a rational being.
— Arabic Proverb

A friend that ain't in need is a friend indeed.
— Kin Hubbard

Have no friends not equal to yourself.
— Confucius

Shared joys make a friend, not shared sufferings.
— Friedrich Nietzsche

Many a person has held close, throughout their entire lives, two friends that always remained strange to one another, because one of them attracted by virtue of similarity, the other by difference.
— Emil Ludwig

Friends that you can buy are a dime a dozen, and will shortchange you if given a chance.
— Author Unknown

Only be admonished by what you already see, not to strike leagues of friendship with cheap persons, where no friendship can be. Our impatience betrays us into rash and foolish alliances which no God attends.
— Ralph Waldo Emerson 

Be courteous to all, but intimate with few, and let those few be well tried before you give them your confidence.
— George Washington

In the sweetness of friendship let there be laughter, and sharing of pleasures.
— Kahil Gibran

Be cautious in choosing friends, and be even more cautious in changing them.
— Unknown Wise Person

Seek those who find your road agreeable, your personality stimulating, your philosophy acceptable, and your experiences helpful. Let those who do not, seek their own kind.
— Jean-Henri Fabre

There can be no Friendship where there is no Freedom.
— William Penn

You cannot be friends upon any other terms than upon the terms of equality.
— Woodrow Wilson

A true friend is the greatest possesion.
— Benjamin Franklin

One who knows how to show and to accept kindness will be a friend better than any possession.
— Sophocles

In short, there are no good reasons for keeping the wrong company. Again, a friend is someone who you admire and respect and who you have a great deal of affection for. That person must be someone you can share your deepest thoughts and feelings with without the fear that he or she will laugh at you. A friend will stick by you through good and ill: through heartbreaks and through fun-filled free bingo games, through losses and through crazy night outs and more.

By the same token, the person should also admire and respect you and have a lot of affection for you. To have a good friend to trust and count on, you must be a friend to them that they can trust and count on. Anything less, and you have an  unhealthy acquaintance relationship masquerading as friendship.

So, take your time cultivating friendship. It doesn't come easy. Once created, maintain it as if your ultimate happiness depends on it — by the way, it does.

 

For more information and opinions on friendship and money see:

1.  Friendship: The Laws of Attraction: Pyschology Today Article: The conventional wisdom is that we choose friends because of who they are. But it turns out that we actually love them because of the way they support who we are.


 


 

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