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A Best Friend Is Much Cheaper than Therapy -
and Ten Times As Helpful!
“People report being happier when they are with friends than
when they’re with a spouse or child,” according to research cited in a recent cover story in
Psychology Today magazine. This, indeed, is something
to ponder seriously.
To repeat, people actually experience greater joy while spending time with their friends than
while spending time with their children or their mates. This should give you an idea of the value of
Unfortunately, friendship - like life in
general - is not easily understood. But there is magic to it,
which makes it so worthwhile.
Interestingly, friendship is one of the most researched subjects on the Internet. This indicates
that millions of people are interested in creating new friendships and enhancing old ones. Given how important
friendship is in our lives, have you ever noticed how little has been written on the subject? Compare, for example,
the number of books written on how to handle money to the number of books on how to create and maintain great
The better part of one's life consists of his
- Abraham Lincoln
Perhaps money buys a certain amount of happiness; It's just that friendship buys more. Indeed,
in many ways friendship is much more valuable to us than money. Our human interactions, particularly those with
close friends, provide most of the joys or disappointments we have in life. It follows that you can’t experience
real success in life unless you have real friends.
Taking into account that passing time with friends provides us with so much joy and happiness,
the question you have to ask yourself is, “Do I have enough close friends?” According to a study reported in the
June 2006 issue of American Sociological Review, American adults, who shocked pollsters in 1985 when they
said they had only three close friends, said they had just two in 2006.
Some people go to priests; others to poetry; I to
- Virginia Woolf
Moreover, the number who said that they have no one to discuss important matters with has
doubled to one in four. The study found that men and women of every race, age, and education level reported fewer
intimate friends than a similar survey indicated in 1985.
Unfortunately, the modern work world makes our individual lives busier and more fragmented.
Thus, many people neglect to devote time to making close friends. “Friendship seems to be the last thing that
anyone’s getting to,” says Jan Yager, an American sociologist and author of several books on friendship.
Yager adds, “Friendship is not something that you get to when everything else in your life is
taken care of. It’s an important relationship even after the school years for emotional health, for career
advancement, for physical well-being.”
To be sure, great friendships are important for creating a new sense of community that
translates into social, emotional, and physical well-being. Several research studies conclude that people who have
intimate relationships with others live happier, healthier, and longer.
If I don't have friends, then I ain't nothing.
- Billie Holiday
Friendship should be a universal and all-encompassing topic for each and every one of us.
Companionship is essential to a full and rich life. It ranks right up there with fulfilling work and good health.
Many individuals have discovered that a good friend is much cheaper than
therapy - and ten times as helpful!
People in our society likely do not speak often about their yearning for friendship, as
important as it is, because they do not want to appear needy and desperate. Not many people care to admit how
lonely they are or can be at times in their lives. Surveys reveal that loneliness is one of the biggest problems
humans face. To many people, it is the biggest.
Of this you should be certain: Life can be a really lonely experience without great friends.
Above all, great friends can provide you with things that you can’t. The reverse is also true. Plautus, the Roman
playwright whose works influenced Shakespeare and Molière, proclaimed, “Your wealth
is where your friends are.”
Put another way, the more people who truly care whether you get up in the morning, the richer
you will feel. You will find this to be true whether you are wealthy or broke. Taking into account the importance
of friendship in our lives, the richest person in this world is the one with the most
real friends - and not the one with the most money.
COPYRIGHT © 2011 by Ernie J.
Top-10 Friends and Social
Goals on 43
Following is a recent list of people's Top-10
goals related to friendship and social life tagged on 43Things.com:
- be more
- be a better
- be more social
- have fun
- go to more concerts
- become better at small-talk
- learn to dance
- learn how to remember peoples' names
- keep in touch with old friends
Friendship Tips from the
Life's Secret Handbook for Having Great
According to a Hindu proverb, "True happiness
consists in making others happy." As far as possible without surrender, be a kind, gentle,
generous, and loving person. Share whatever happiness you experience with others. In this way you
will multiply the friendship - and happiness - that comes into your life.
Be known to your friends as someone with a cool
demeanor, warm heart, and great character. Your presence on this earth will long be
When the Thrill Is
Gone: When things go wrong in the friendship game, be your own best. Don't
take it personally. Remember that if a person has done you a terrible wrong, he will do it to
others. You have every reason to feel good about yourself if you have been honest, kind, and
loving. Also remember that people are not against you. They are for themselves.
First Top-10 List of
Quotes about Friendship
#1 of Top Ten Friendship Quotes
The only way to have a friend is to be one.
- Ralph Waldo Emerson
#2 of Top Ten Friendship Quotes
It’s the friends you can call up at four a.m. that matter.
- Marlene Dietrich
#3 of Top Ten Friendship Quotes
It is one of the blessings of old friends that you can afford to be stupid with them.
- Ralph Waldo Emerson
#4 of Top Ten Friendship Quotes
Real friendship is shown in times of trouble; prosperity is full of friends.
#5 of Top Ten Friendship Quotes
The world is so empty if one thinks only of mountains, rivers and cities; but to know
someone here and there who thinks and feels with us, and though distant, is close to us in spirit - this
makes the earth for us an inhabited garden.
#6 of Top Ten Friendship Quotes
Promises may get friends, but it is performance that must nurse and keep
- Owen Feltham
#7 of Top Ten Friendship Quotes
Constant use will not wear ragged the fabric of friendship.
- Dorothy Parker
#8 of Top Ten Friendship Quotes
On the road between homes of friends, grass does not grow.
- Norwegian proverb
#9 of Top Ten Friendship Quotes
Best friends are fully aware of how retarded you are and still manage to be seen with you
- Unknown Wise Person
#10 of Top Ten Friendship Quotes
To be rich in friends . . . is to be poor in nothing.
- Unknown wise person
Some Ancient Advice on
If two friends ask you to judge a dispute, don't accept, because you will lose one friend;
on the other hand, if two strangers come with the same request, accept because you will gain one
- Saint Augustine, Roman religious figure, philosopher
and Subjects on The Friendship Café
and Subjects on Friendship Coming Soon
The following topics relating to friends and friendship will be covered on this website
through articles, quotes, and poems.
- Should You Care about What Others Think about Your Friends?
- Some of Life's Secrets for Enduring Friendships
- Top-10 Dumbest Things You Can Do with Friends to Ensure That You Lose Them
- Barriers to Friendship
- Children and Their Friends
- Cynical Comments about Friendship
- Should You Expect Favors from a Best Friend
- Where to Find New Friends
- When and How to Forgive Best Friends
- How to Grow a Best Friend
- Hanging on to Your Best Friends
- Insincere Friends
- Importance of Best Friends and Friendship
- Kinds and Types of Best Friends to Have
- How to Make Friendships Last
- How to Handle the Loss of Best Friends
- Love versus Friendship
- Male and Female Friendships
- Marriage and Friends
- Meaning of Friendship
- Motives for Friendship
- One's Character in Relation to One's Choice of Best Friends
- Paradox of Friendship
- Are There Perfect Best Friends?
- Why Only Fools Consider Popularity When Choosing Friends
- Possessions and Friends
- What Is the Price of Friendship - Can Friends Be Bought?
- What Is the Ultimate Purpose of Friendship?
- Relatives Versus Friends
- Sharing Secrets with Best Friends
- Spending Time with Best Friends
- Success and Friendship
- Taking Advantage of Your Best Friends
- Value of Best Friends
- Work and Friends
Note: Some of the
Friendship Content on This Website Comes from Best-selling Books by Ernie
More Content Will Soon Be Available from These Books
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