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Where Best Friends Learn How to Become Great Friends

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The Friendship Café

Where Best Friends Learn How to Become Great Friends

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Feature Article on Friendship

A Best Friend Is Much Cheaper than Therapy - and Ten Times As Helpful!

 “People report being happier when they are with friends than when they’re with a spouse or child,” according to research cited in a recent cover story in Psychology Today magazine. This, indeed, is something to ponder seriously.

To repeat, people actually experience greater joy while spending time with their friends than while spending time with their children or their mates. This should give you an idea of the value of friendship.

Unfortunately, friendship - like life in general - is not easily understood. But there is magic to it, which makes it so worthwhile.

Interestingly, friendship is one of the most researched subjects on the Internet. This indicates that millions of people are interested in creating new friendships and enhancing old ones. Given how important friendship is in our lives, have you ever noticed how little has been written on the subject? Compare, for example, the number of books written on how to handle money to the number of books on how to create and maintain great friends.

The better part of one's life consists of his friendships.
- Abraham Lincoln

Perhaps money buys a certain amount of happiness; It's just that friendship buys more. Indeed, in many ways friendship is much more valuable to us than money. Our human interactions, particularly those with close friends, provide most of the joys or disappointments we have in life. It follows that you can’t experience real success in life unless you have real friends.

Taking into account that passing time with friends provides us with so much joy and happiness, the question you have to ask yourself is, “Do I have enough close friends?” According to a study reported in the June 2006 issue of American Sociological Review, American adults, who shocked pollsters in 1985 when they said they had only three close friends, said they had just two in 2006.

Some people go to priests; others to poetry; I to my friends.
- Virginia Woolf

Moreover, the number who said that they have no one to discuss important matters with has doubled to one in four. The study found that men and women of every race, age, and education level reported fewer intimate friends than a similar survey indicated in 1985.

Unfortunately, the modern work world makes our individual lives busier and more fragmented. Thus, many people neglect to devote time to making close friends. “Friendship seems to be the last thing that anyone’s getting to,” says Jan Yager, an American sociologist and author of several books on friendship.

Yager adds, “Friendship is not something that you get to when everything else in your life is taken care of. It’s an important relationship even after the school years for emotional health, for career advancement, for physical well-being.”

To be sure, great friendships are important for creating a new sense of community that translates into social, emotional, and physical well-being. Several research studies conclude that people who have intimate relationships with others live happier, healthier, and longer.

If I don't have friends, then I ain't nothing.
- Billie Holiday

Friendship should be a universal and all-encompassing topic for each and every one of us. Companionship is essential to a full and rich life. It ranks right up there with fulfilling work and good health. Many individuals have discovered that a good friend is much cheaper than therapy - and ten times as helpful!

People in our society likely do not speak often about their yearning for friendship, as important as it is, because they do not want to appear needy and desperate. Not many people care to admit how lonely they are or can be at times in their lives. Surveys reveal that loneliness is one of the biggest problems humans face. To many people, it is the biggest.

Of this you should be certain: Life can be a really lonely experience without great friends. Above all, great friends can provide you with things that you can’t. The reverse is also true. Plautus, the Roman playwright whose works influenced Shakespeare and Molière, proclaimed, “Your wealth is where your friends are.” 

Put another way, the more people who truly care whether you get up in the morning, the richer you will feel. You will find this to be true whether you are wealthy or broke. Taking into account the importance of friendship in our lives, the richest person in this world is the one with the most real friends - and not the one with the most money.

COPYRIGHT © 2011 by Ernie J. Zelinski

Top-10 Friends and Social Life

 Goals on 43 Things  

Following is a recent list of people's Top-10 goals related to friendship and social life tagged on 43Things.com:

  1. make new friends 
  2. be more confident 
  3. be a better friend 
  4. be more social 
  5. have fun 
  6. go to more concerts 
  7. become better at small-talk 
  8. learn to dance 
  9. learn how to remember peoples' names 
  10. keep in touch with old friends    

 

Friendship Tips from the Book

   Life's Secret Handbook for Having Great Friends

Friendship

 

  • According to a Hindu proverb, "True happiness consists in making others happy." As far as possible without surrender, be a kind, gentle, generous, and loving person. Share whatever happiness you experience with others. In this way you will multiply the friendship - and happiness - that comes into your life. 
  • Be known to your friends as someone with a cool demeanor, warm heart, and great character. Your presence on this earth will long be remembered. 
  • When the Thrill Is Gone: When things go wrong in the friendship game, be your own best. Don't take it personally. Remember that if a person has done you a terrible wrong, he will do it to others. You have every reason to feel good about yourself if you have been honest, kind, and loving. Also remember that people are not against you. They are for themselves. 

  First Top-10 List of Quotes about Friendship

#1 of Top Ten Friendship Quotes

The only way to have a friend is to be one.
- Ralph Waldo Emerson

#2 of Top Ten Friendship Quotes

It’s the friends you can call up at four a.m. that matter.
- Marlene Dietrich

#3 of Top Ten Friendship Quotes

It is one of the blessings of old friends that you can afford to be stupid with them.
- Ralph Waldo Emerson

#4 of Top Ten Friendship Quotes

Real friendship is shown in times of trouble; prosperity is full of friends.
- Euripedes

#5 of Top Ten Friendship Quotes

The world is so empty if one thinks only of mountains, rivers and cities; but to know someone here and there who thinks and feels with us, and though distant, is close to us in spirit - this makes the earth for us an inhabited garden.
- Goethe

#6 of Top Ten Friendship Quotes

Promises may get friends, but it is performance that must nurse and keep them.
- Owen Feltham

#7 of Top Ten Friendship Quotes

Constant use will not wear ragged the fabric of friendship.
- Dorothy Parker

#8 of Top Ten Friendship Quotes

On the road between homes of friends, grass does not grow.
- Norwegian proverb

#9 of Top Ten Friendship Quotes

Best friends are fully aware of how retarded you are and still manage to be seen with you in public!
- Unknown Wise Person

#10 of Top Ten Friendship Quotes

To be rich in friends . . . is to be poor in nothing.
- Unknown wise person

Some Ancient Advice on Friendship

If two friends ask you to judge a dispute, don't accept, because you will lose one friend; on the other hand, if two strangers come with the same request, accept because you will gain one friend.
- Saint Augustine, Roman religious figure, philosopher

Friendship Articles and Subjects on The Friendship Café

More Articles and Subjects on Friendship Coming Soon

 The following topics relating to friends and friendship will be covered on this website through articles, quotes, and poems.

  • Should You Care about What Others Think about Your Friends?
  • Some of Life's Secrets for Enduring Friendships
  • Top-10 Dumbest Things You Can Do with Friends to Ensure That You Lose Them 
  • Barriers to Friendship
  • Children and Their Friends
  • Cynical Comments about Friendship
  • Should You Expect Favors from a Best Friend
  • Where to Find New Friends 
  • When and How to Forgive Best Friends
  • How to Grow a Best Friend
  • Hanging on to Your Best Friends
  • Insincere Friends
  • Importance of Best Friends and Friendship
  • Kinds and Types of Best Friends to Have
  • How to Make Friendships Last
  • How to Handle the Loss of Best Friends
  • Love versus Friendship
  • Male and Female Friendships 
  • Marriage and Friends
  • Meaning of Friendship
  • Motives for Friendship
  • One's Character in Relation to One's Choice of Best Friends
  • Paradox of Friendship
  • Are There Perfect Best Friends? 
  • Why Only Fools Consider Popularity When Choosing Friends 
  • Possessions and Friends
  • What Is the Price of Friendship - Can Friends Be Bought? 
  • What Is the Ultimate Purpose of Friendship?
  • Relatives Versus Friends 
  • Sharing Secrets with Best Friends
  • Spending Time with Best Friends
  • Success and Friendship
  • Taking Advantage of Your Best Friends
  • Value of Best Friends
  • Work and Friends

 

Note: Some of the Friendship Content on This Website Comes from Best-selling Books by Ernie Zelinski Including:

More Content Will Soon Be Available from These Books Including:

  • Real Success Means Having Real Friends
  • The Richest Person Is the One with the Most Real Friends 
  • Ten Million Dollars Cannot Buy What Great Friendship Can
  • If You Want to Soar with the Eagles, Don't Hang around with the Turkeys 
  • No Matter Which Way You Look at It, Flat Out - Great Friends Rule!  

 

COPYRIGHT © 2013 by Ernie J. Zelinski

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Top-10 List of Best Things Ever Said about Friendship

Nothing but heaven itself is better than a friend who is really a
friend.
— Plautus

Only your real friends will tell you when your face is dirty.
— Sicilian Proverb

It is one of the blessings of old friends that you can afford to be
stupid with them.
— Ralph Waldo Emerson

On the road between homes of friends, grass does not grow.
— Norwegian proverb

If I don't have friends, then I ain't nothing.
— Billie Holiday

Friendship is like money, easier made than kept.
— Samuel Butler 

To be rich in friends — is to be poor in nothing.
— Anon

A mere friend will agree with you, but a real friend will argue.
— Russian Proverb

Make new friends but cherish the old ones.
— H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

A loyal best friend is someone who sticks up for you even when you're not there.
— Anon

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